The Big Door Prize…is Knowing Your Potential Overrated?
In this issue: The Big Door Prize… / How Your Thinking Affects Your Brain Chemistry / Nostalgia Is a Shield Against Unhappiness/ The Lighter Side of Potential
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The Big Door Prize…is Knowing Your Potential Overrated?
In a world that constantly pushes us to excel and maximize our abilities, the idea of discovering your true potential and hidden talents might sound pretty great.
But is it?
Recently I stumbled on Apple TV's "The Big Door Prize," a series based on M.O. Walsh's bestselling novel, which explores this very topic.
The show tells the story of a small town where the lives of its people are forever changed by the appearance of a mysterious machine claiming to reveal their true potential.
At some point, most of us have wished someone would just say, “This is what you should be doing.”
We often long for ultimate clarity on what path to take or life-altering choice to make.
Wouldn’t it be great if some person or force would simply tell us (mom and/or dad excluded, of course) what to do?
But what would it really mean to have that insight into our untapped potential?
And how might this knowledge affect us in becoming that hoped-for best version of ourselves?
They’re fascinating questions.
And the implications of this are vast and complex.
You might think that knowing your true potential is the key to unlocking real success and happiness.
If you only knew your innate talents and abilities that your direction and purpose would be clear and that longed-for motivation would be unleashed and even better all those lingering self-doubts would be eliminated… you’d be free to be the walking embodiment of self-esteem and self-confidence that you know is inside of you just waiting to come out.
By now you may be wondering where can I get one of those machines :)?
The truth is that it/we’re not that simple.
With this knowledge can also come anxiety, pressure, and fear.
Being told that you’re supposed to rise to greatness comes with expectations and a fear of failure that may feel overwhelming.
Moreover, knowledge of our true potential can trigger an identity crisis, as we grapple with the discrepancies between who we thought we were and who we’re told we can become.
This internal conflict can be disorienting and may even lead to resistance or denial, as we struggle to reconcile our new self-image with our established sense of self.
As the characters of "The Big Door Prize" discover their unique talents and unlock their aspirations, they also find that their relationships change and in some cases are jeopardized.
No sooner than they begin to change, their friends and loved ones become increasingly insecure, wondering what their role may be in their changing lives.
Many of us have experienced similar things when those around us are less-than-supportive as we enter into new ventures or begin to try different things.
We are, unquestionably, complicated beings.
Beyond the personal implications, the knowledge of our true potential raises other important questions, like the impact of this knowledge on our personal, educational, and career choices, as we cut off some avenues to pursue it.
Despite these challenges, the path toward realizing our full potential can be an exciting, transformative experience.
Self-awareness is crucial in navigating this process.
Truly knowing ourselves and what matters to us can enable us to embrace often scary changes, recognize our limitations, and ultimately, grow into our best selves from these experiences.
By taking the leap and accepting the inherent uncertainty of the journey, we can learn to adapt and thrive in the face of new information.
"The Big Door Prize" serves as a fascinating, potent reminder that while the discovery of our true potential and hidden talents can be an incredible catalyst for change and personal growth, it is not definitive in shaping who we are and who we can become.
Ultimately, our journey toward potentiality is a lifelong process,
And one that most of us are continually experiencing, though often in much more subtle ways.
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RECOMMENDED LISTENS, READS And other interesting things
How Your Thinking Affects Your Brain Chemistry
The relationship between our thoughts and brain chemistry is complex and multifaceted. Your thoughts matter more than you think because they change how your brain and body function – so choose wisely.
Nostalgia Is a Shield Against Unhappiness
Happy memories have a uniquely protective power against a sad present.
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The Lighter Side of Potential
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