The Art of Resilient Leadership: Thriving in the Face of Rejection
This is how to how to reframe the art of rejection + One Minute Focus tool + The (not so) Lighter Side of Rejection
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The Art of Resilient Leadership: Thriving in the Face of Rejection
Is rejection the secret ingredient to leadership success?
We’ve all faced the pain of rejection.
It's a blow to the ego and a test of our resilience.
But what if we could reframe it, understanding that often, a 'no' isn't about our worth but simply a mismatch of circumstances?
It's an idea that can shift our entire perspective on failure in our careers.
Rejection is a universal experience—painful yet necessary.
It's a moment that requires reflection and can create incredible growth opportunities.
The truth is that most rejections in our careers have little to do with us.
They're about a lot of factors beyond our control—timing, organizational needs, or even the specific vision of a role that we might not fit, regardless of our abilities or achievements.
Take the recent case of my client (and muse for this post)—he’s got an incredible resume and the references to match, yet he experienced a painful 'no', failing even to get an interview.
But it wasn't his capabilities they questioned; it was a matter of fit.
His innovative background and mindset weren’t the right fit for the very traditional organization he’d applied.
Though still painful, this insight helped him overcome the disappointment to actively pursue other roles that genuinely matched his values and talents.
The resilience from these challenges is one of our greatest assets in our interconnected, fast-paced world.
The stories of icons like Steve Jobs, Brian Chesky, and Oprah Winfrey remind us that today's rejection can be an important step to tomorrow's success.
Their journeys teach us that each 'no' can build resolve, and help us refine our goals and strategies.
So how do we handle rejection with greater resilience and determination?
First, don’t ignore your emotions—acknowledge the hurt, but don’t dwell on it.
Next, get clarity on the 'why' behind the 'no.' Use the key lessons to inform and improve our strategies moving forward.
It's about targeting opportunities where our values and skills match to increase our chances of job satisfaction and success.
And importantly, we must cultivate emotional intelligence. There’s little more important in our increasingly fast-paced world than our ability to understand and manage our reactions to setbacks and adapt.
This emotional insight will also help us find the right opportunities, and swipe right on success when it appears.
While an uncomfortable lesson(s), embracing rejection is an important part of our growth that allows us to plan our futures with purpose, actively looking for opportunities that match our skills and potential.
So, when you next encounter a 'no', try not to view it as a setback but as a chance to refine, adjust, and intentionally move forward on your goals.
TL;DR / Action Steps Recap:
1. Process Your Emotions: Accept your feelings post-rejection but don't get mired in them.
2. Seek Clarity: Understand why you were rejected to improve future endeavors.
3. Aim for the Right Fit: Align your pursuits with organizations that value your unique contributions.
4. Grow Your Resilience: Use rejection as fuel for growth and persistence.
5. Embrace Emotional Intelligence: Manage your emotional responses to maintain confidence and optimism.
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Weekly Recommendations
One Minute Focus
To regain focus, watch the dot on the One Minute Focus for 60 seconds. It's designed to sharpen your attention on subsequent activities. While it could be a placebo effect, I've found it genuinely helpful. (Acknowledgment to Dan Pink.)
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The (not so) Lighter Side of Rejection
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